Lets face it, if you were really serious about your New Years resolutions, you’d be doing them already.
But if you have really and truly opened a new chapter in your life, or realised that you need to make a change and stick to it, then it is time to be Resolute in your Resolutions.
Goal setting has entire books written on it. Lets condense some tips to get you on your way.
I like the SMART analogy to writing goals. Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timed.
For example, let us say after Christmas, you decided it is really time to transform your physique.
Saying to yourself, my goal is to lose weight, is next to useless.
Try this instead. For example.
I will reduce my body fat percentage from 25% to 15% in 6 months.
It is Specific (reduce body fat by a given percentage).
It is Measurable (by however you have chosen to measure your body fat, which should be accurate and repeatable)
It is Achievable (A ten percent body fat reduction in this time frame is sensible for most)
It is Realistic (Nothing demotivates people more than a goal that is unattainable)
It is Timed. (Without this, goals get pushed back because life is busy, and before you know it they are lost in the annals of time)
Next. You need to write your goals down.
Every personal development seminar I have ever attended talks about the Havard Business school study that started in 1979. Only 3% of this year group had written goals.
By 1989, that 3% were earning ten times more than the rest of the group put together.
Once you have written those thoughts that are dancing through your mind onto paper, they are already starting to manifest themselves into reality. The act of physically scribing thoughts into words is a powerful one.
Put them somewhere you will see them regularly. Revisit them often, plan how you will achieve them, visualise how you will feel once they have been accomplished, and how you can sit down and create new goals to supersede them.
Lastly, make yourself accountable. To yourself, yes, but have others hold you accountable too.
When someone you respect can prevent you from wavering from your goals, it is a powerful tool.
Which brings us back to being Resolute in your Resolutions.
Willpower alone cannot be wholly relied upon to deliver your goals.
But a weak mental constitution will deliver nothing.
Whenever I ask people about their opinion of what it is to be a Man, they almost always include a word like, steadfast, determined or purposeful.
They could replace any of these words with, Resolute.
The ability to stay the course, to endure when it gets tough, to hold fast and see to it that shit gets done.
Being in the business of taking care of business.
When you set your mind to something, it is not with the gratuitous, fickle, laissez-faire attitude that you may or may not get it done.
Otherwise, why proclaim that it warrants your full attention?
When you decide you want to achieve something. When it is written in your own words, your bond, go after it like your life depends on it.
The faint hearted will have conveniently forgotten about their ‘New Years Resolutions’ by February. So many pointless distractions to keep them from what they have decided they really want.
Do not be one of them.
Be Resolute in your Resolutions.